Theresa: 0:00

peace has always been something that I go after. And it's because Jesus is the prince of peace. And so with the Lord, if you don't have peace, he will give it to you. Lord, where are you in this? What are you doing in me? So wait for that answer. Seeds for your marriage.

Trisha: 0:33

Hello there, welcome to Seeds for Your Marriage, and I'm Trisha Walker. I have here with me Theresa Pang, my dear friend. She is a woman who has written this book that we'll be talking about, but she's also a faith driven entrepreneur and corporate leader. And she is really passionate about seeing people walk in their purpose, and pursue the kingdom of God as a lifestyle. All right. So let's get to the book, the seven steps from problem to be peace. So tell me a little bit about that. Tell me about your process and maybe if you want to share, if you want to give people a little sneak peek into some of your steps and how and how you'd like to use them.

Theresa: 1:19

Yeah. Actually, the seven steps is really easy. And the way I got here is because peace has always been something that I go after. And it's because Jesus is the prince of peace. And so with the Lord, if you don't have peace, he will give it to you. And so we just have to seek him and find him because he says he will give it to you. And he leaves it with you. And how I got there is Just knowing that, how do I, so I asked myself, how do I keep my peace? And suddenly, I've noticed a pattern in my life. Both corporately, when I'm in boardrooms, or when I'm in meetings, or even in the church, or how I deal with people, or problems. I find myself, just going through the same process. And so I think the easiest way is to lead you guys through it. If you guys don't mind. Is that okay? Yeah,

Trisha: 2:22

that's great.

Theresa: 2:23

Yeah. Okay. So it's very simple. I'm just going to ask you guys to just pause. So the first it's seven Ps and the Ps is pause. We're going to pray, we're going to praise the Lord, we're going to see where the presence is, where God is , who the people are, where God is in the people and then we're going to ask him for the process, and then we're going to be flooded with overwhelming peace. Okay, you guys ready? Yeah., Holy Spirit, we welcome you. So we're gonna pause. I'm gonna ask you to just relax, be in a position of comfort, whether you want to lie down, sit down, and that you're just feeling relaxed. So we're gonna take a moment to pause, which means be still because the Lord says, Be still and know that I am God. So we have to surrender. So we're gonna take a moment and focus our eyes on Him, nothing else. So we pray, God, that you would release any worry. Any doubt any stresses off of you right now, we're going to go into prayer So Lord, we thank you God for this man of god and this woman of God who is sitting right here listening to this podcast or video We thank you god for who they are. We thank you god for the love that you have for him That you would cover them With a blanket of peace, with a blanket of love and put your arms around them. And now I want you to think of a problem or a circumstance that you're in right now that you're seeking guidance or you're looking for, or you're seeking a solution for. Just one thing when it pops into your mind Imagine yourself just giving it to the Lord. So after prayer, we're going to praise him in this circumstance Okay, so there's a shifting that happens when you're thankful when you're grateful and you're praising So in your heart right now You're going to thank him for them. We thank you, Lord, for this circumstance. We thank you, God, for all the people involved. We thank you, God, for what you're doing in this atmosphere. We thank you, God, that you are for us and not against us. We worship you, God, and we know that you are the problem solver. Thank you, God, that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. We thank you, God, that you are the provider. We thank you, God, that we surrender it all to you. We thank you, Jesus. So we turn our hearts to praise because it shifts it. We're not looking at the problem, we're looking at the person in charge and we're looking at the person who is the who is our God and he can do anything and all things. And so now after we shift our minds to praise, we enter into his presence. And we say, Lord, where are you in this? What are you doing in me? So wait for that answer. Show me where you're at. What have you been doing? What are you doing? So we enter into his presence because we can do nothing without his presence. Where are you? Where's the presence of God? Do you feel him tangibly in your life? Do you know that he's still right there? And then now we turn our eyes to the people involved. God What are you doing in the people? Where are you? Where are you at with the people? How are they feeling? Where are they at with you? Why are they responding in the way that they are? What people are you bringing to me in this circumstance? What people do I need? What divine connections? Were they at in their healing process in this circumstance? Where am I at? And then after you have a sense of what God is doing in you and the people around And in the people that are involved in the circumstance Then we say lord. Give me that strategy god Give me your strategy Show me that process What are the ABCs? What are the 1, 2, 3s? And then write them down. And then you might have that aha moment, or spirit of understanding. And then finally, ask yourself if you have peace. And if you don't have peace, you go back to the first and you pause again. So I pray you get your, I pray that right now, even as we go through this, you receive your answers. from the Lord, not from me, from the Lord. Amen. So good. Thank you. That's really good. Amen, Trish. Yeah. So that's really how, that's really how I process, not just it. In the boardroom, I'm doing the same things over the circumstances, or even as I minister in a crowd, like if I'm like, Holy Spirit, what are you doing in this moment? I pause and I'm like, Lord, what are you doing? And I look around and I see, what the Lord is, how the Holy Spirit is moving in the room. And then where are you? What are you doing in the past? Oh, what are you doing in me? Where am I supposed to go? Are we supposed to not do the agenda? Are we supposed to stay in this place? Are we supposed to move on? So that it can apply to anything and anywhere.

Trisha: 9:31

That's one. That's awesome. Yeah. No wonder why I've seen you in so many different situations. So many different events and different situations where it's there's a lot going on and it's pretty intense and there's people, lots of people coming at you, asking different things and a lot of different needs and you're like, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's all good. You're just handling it one thing at a time and you're just taking care of it and it all works out

Theresa: 10:00

because you're always going to have people like, screaming and shouting on one end, no, we need to move to the next thing or we have to, this is the internet is down or Okay. It's okay. What is God doing? The first focus is what is God doing here? All right. Who's, how are the people responding? All right. If the people are, if Holy Spirit is moving and then people are encountering the Lord, let's not go anywhere. Like what is God doing?

Trisha: 10:26

Yeah, that's really good. That's really good. And I love, I think step number five is. So important, which is the people and here it says, God what is going on in the hearts of these people? Are they hurting? Where are they coming from? I think that's so key. I think so many times in decisions. Oftentimes we're only looking at it from maybe our own needs or our own perspective in once. And I believe it's critical to know not only what do I want, but what is it that the person would want? What are some of the things that are their desires or, and what do we want for just the people in general or the people and all the people involved, whether it's our family or, maybe it's a team that we're working with or whatever what do we want for them? And then in the midst of all of that like you're saying what is God doing? What does he want for these people? For me, for this person, for the group and really being able to focus on the people in your, like your process and your decision making process. I really do believe it helps you to have a more balanced results where you can, Hopefully move forward in that relationship or in the group setting or whatever, where it's maybe more collaborative with the people and, hopefully everyone leaves in a more, peaceful state.

Theresa: 11:52

Yeah, Trisha, I love that because the hearts of the people we sometimes don't know what they've been through, which is why they're they may be responding to how they're responding to the situation in terms of the way that they are responding, like maybe a negative way or but we don't know. And so I think understanding having a listening year and understanding the reasons why and all and then also. Always assuming positive and it really goes a long way. And so knowing where their hearts are is really, especially for leaders, and understanding the strengths of their people, stepping back and asking the Lord, okay, Lord, show me, why are they responding this way? Lord, show me like, how can I bridge the gap? How do you know, if it's within people, how would I give me your strategies? And so the Lord will download for you the reasons why Hey, maybe it's because of these reasons, or maybe it was because of these experiences. Or or he'll just do a light bulb moment where, and he'll just drop it on you. So under. In the heart of God and others and why God will show you.

Trisha: 13:11

Yeah, that's so powerful

Theresa: 13:15

It's

Trisha: 13:15

really powerful and it helps you leave Different situations regardless if you stay in a certain work environment or leave. I mean it really helps you leave That situation or that environment where you're not burning any bridges or how you leave a situation is how you enter another situation. And so it's very important that you do things in a way that where the people are honored, people are valued, and you're not like, starting a fire when you're, transitioning to another environment.

Theresa: 13:55

I think overall people want to belong and people want to be heart safe. And when there is honor, I think that it goes a long way. And, and people just, people want to be heard. And, the Bible says the greatest gift is to lay down one's life for another. And so when you do honor that person, they will feel seen, loved, heard. And even if it's, I agree to disagree with you. You know what I mean? And that type of But they honored then the outcome is always going to be very positive.

Trisha: 14:34

Yeah. Yeah. And one thing, just by observing you and just knowing you for several years is you're a great listener and you ask really good questions. So I think that's really important when you're trying to, when you're trying to connect with someone or lead people, or, you Like lead people in a work environment or even a family, being able to just. not focus on yourself and your own agenda, but really just listen to people in their hearts and ask really good questions to help draw out of them. What it is that's inside. Really it just adds so much value to. The situation and also just to the relationship.

Theresa: 15:19

You're the same way, Trish. I'm so encouraged every time I speak with you and it's because I just I feel heard, I feel loved. And so it's the same way, Trish. And I think it's the same way for everyone else as everyone else too, is that people want, it's just feeling loved. Like they want to feel loved and we're here to love. And as great leaders, I think it's important to meet people where they're at and then draw out their strengths. And and then help them in their weaknesses and encourage them to, just keep on going.

Trisha: 16:00

Yeah. That's really good. Yeah. And I love also what you said about like always and so assuming Positive intent. Yeah. I, there's another way that I've actually heard of it where when we're missing information, Naturally as human beings, our minds tend to resort to negative intent. So our minds get triggered like it's the way our minds work is it links to us? maybe a previous situation that maybe was negative and Then automatically if we're missing information, we fill that information with our previous experience and then all we have all of these Things going on inside of us, these thoughts or whatever about how it's going to end up badly, or they maybe we're questioning their intentions or whatever, but if we can learn to catch that in our mind and really start to train our mind to like you say, think positively assume positive intent, and if we really are. If there really does seem something suspicious, have an open conversation about it, have a brave conversation about the situation and maybe some of your concerns that you're having.

Theresa: 17:13

That's so good. Yes. And it's always important to, tell me how this came about or tell me what happened or share, share with me what it is. I think, a lot of us has heard it. Say that assume means you make a beep out of you, right? Yeah. Yeah. I hope that's okay. We can.

Trisha: 17:36

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, that's good.

Theresa: 17:38

When we assume I agree with you, a lot of times it goes through the negative. the negative alleys before we see the positive. Just continuing to put on that mind of Christ, continuing to focus on positive, on positivity and focus on, okay, am I grounded in the Lord? Are my foundations in that love, joy, peace, gentleness the gift, and so, it's so important, but it's, It takes a lot of practice.

Trisha: 18:10

It does. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You up. Okay. So you actually embody the fruits of the Spirit. So all of those, the fruits of the spirit that you were rambling off. Yes. You embody those fruits of the Spirit. And then another thing too, that I just love about how you wrote the book about peace is just even with, I was thinking of arming herself with the armor of God and how our feet are shed with the sandals of peace. And so when we go about, if we can learn this on how to walk in peace, how to make decisions in peace, how to go through this process where it becomes a part of us, wherever we go, we're bringing that peace with us. And that peace actually transforms us. It transforms situations. You can really deescalate a situation a lot by just the peace that you bring into that environment.

Theresa: 18:58

Amen. And everyone who is watching, that's you. When you strap on the sandals of peace and just put on Jesus, you will bring that peace to any atmosphere. I, that is so good Trish.

Trisha: 19:13

Amen. Amen. Okay. So any we're. Winding down any last encouraging words for our listeners those that are married or Maybe wanting to get married or divorced all realms of relationships any last bits of encouraging words

Theresa: 19:33

focus on the Lord because Half filled and half filled doesn't make a full so you need to be full of the Holy Spirit and full of the Lord when you walk into a relationship and just continue to Be centered in him and with him You can make all things possible and friends who pray together stay together, so relationships that pray together stay together and Your own timeline don't rush healing And surround yourself with prayer, with peace. With power, with praise and be filled with God. And know, that you're not alone. No, that God is with you and we bless you with the peace of Christ that will never leave you.

Trisha: 20:29

Amen. Amen. So good. So good. How can people find out about you or your book? Yeah, sure.

Theresa: 20:38

So seven steps from problem to peace is on Amazon. And so feel free to. I think there's a free download right now for those who are members and for those who can't afford it, go ahead and email, Trisha or LG her ministry and let her know. And I will send you a free copy. Okay. Yeah.

Trisha: 21:00

Thank you so much. Yeah. Okay. So I love what you, the prayer that you did that you just did and you just encourage and bless people. I just want to bless people even more with, there's something that you did in your book and I just loved it. It's called the presence prayer. And so I just want everyone to listen to this. So God, I invite you into my heart. And invite you to this circumstance. I give this problem to you. Lord. Thank you for your presence is with me Thank you for your presence is with me. Will you make yourself come alive to me? Show me where you are in this situation I want to taste See hear Smell and sense you everywhere all the days of my life guide me jesus Take the will. I want you to steer my life. Amen.

Theresa: 21:53

Amen.

Trisha: 21:55

Hallelujah. Thank you Theresa so much and yeah, everyone get her book, support her. She is a world traveler going around all over the world, just helping people and bringing them together. bringing the message of Christ to, to those and just really blessing people. So just really, I want you to bless her. So thank you so much, Theresa.

Theresa: 22:19

Thank you, Trish. What an honor. Thank you everybody. Thank you for listening to Seeds for Your Marriage with hosts, Trisha and Thomas Walker. We pray this episode has given you tips and tools on how to thrive in your marriage. Be sure to subscribe to this podcast and follow us on Facebook and Instagram at Trisha and Thomas. We want to hear from you. Be sure to leave a review and let us know how we're doing. It's our desire that this podcast completely benefits you. So also let us know future marriage topics that you would like to hear about.